Grudges - are they worth it?

Grudges are absolutely poisonous.

Deep down inside, I know I should vanish them from my mind. Over time grudges have stolen my happiness, I have bottled up anger that has robbed me of other things too.

Grudges creep into our relationships.  I try and think of it that, We are imperfect people living with other imperfect people in a very messed up world.

We do though,  get to choose if we are going to put a higher price tag on our relationships and save them from ruin, we learn that not every relationship is worth saving, but some are, some are worth fighting for. 

In every relationship there are arguements and at the time of each arguement, a decision needs to made whether the reason for the arguement can be let go or not.  This isn't about winning or losing, it is simply about whether the reasons behind the arguement are worth ruining a relationship over.
Once all the anger has passed, often that is when we realise that the arguement was caused by petty issues. This is when we either let go or continue on. 
Every relationship has issues at some time or other, we are all human.  Some people continually argue and disagree with each other time and time again, to move forward they need to learn how to communicate and change the cycle. 

Some people cannot let go, often you need to decide at this point whether this person should remain in your life. 
I've been in this situation a few times over the years.  I know the keeping grudges is not healthy, the non stop negativity is harmful.
Forgiveness is hard, even as a Catholic, forgiveness is difficult for me.  It does depend on what I am forgiving.
In several occasions in my life, I've found that forgiveness is like muscle memory.  Everyday, small acts of forgiveness built me up into a much more forgiving person but in some circumstances I still find forgiveness incredibly difficult.
Grudges need putting into perspective, sitting down is the best policy, that is when you realise that often all of this is not worth the grief, this means letting go, this doesn't mean the other side wins, it simply means that you realise relationships are worth saving. 

I've seen people destroyed by family grudges, bottling it all up causing anger and depression.  Lessons need to be learned from this, let go and save yourself the misery and pain.