Where do you see yourself in 5 years?

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My grandmother asked me today "Odette Lyndsey where do you see yourself in 5 years?"


Over the years, I have been asked this so many times in interviews, employers like to find employees who set goals for themselves, they see it as a sign of a person who is motivated and wants to get ahead in life.
I used to believe this too. I would constantly badger myself, “You should be further along in your career ode.” “Everyone else is in management positions Ode, ERM how about you?”
There was constant pressure on me, mainly from me to be more, to achieve more, to do better, to be better than what I am now.  

 Society idealizes the upwardly mobile, outwardly wealthy, ambitious person.
All my personal goals are exterior driven, to do, strive, angst and work and work harder.  Then life happens and you cannot control or predict what will be thrown your way.
Life happens regardless of plans we make.  I have learnt over my life so far that you cannot forget the deal you have today and the strive and the struggle to be better and further along can sometimes wait.
I sit her writing this and can think of a dozen situations immediately, like my wedding last May when I was not fully present, I was worried for example,  whether people had enough to eat and drink, I am always worrying about some future event, I would give anything to have those days back so I could enjoy every single moment of these days.


So, we should change where do you see yourself Ode in 5 years to who do you want to be in five years?
Every circumstance and outward event are completely out of my control,  The only thing we can control is our internal world.
I have realized that if I focus on being the best version of me that I can be, my future can be even better than I imagined. I know I can’t get there by acquiring and doing; I need to get to my best future by appreciating what I have and choosing what I give my attention to.
My job now may not be my forever Job and the place we live may not be our forever home but I have my wife, my little Lindo and my family.  I have everything I need.
Everyday, I choose to be loving to my wife and to put my attention on what I do have, not on what I lack.  I live my best life, right now and I need to sit and spend some time thinking about who I want to be in five years. 


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