Compassion

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In my life, so many times I have felt okay, felt safe, I was seen, I was heard and I felt understood, to the point that I could finally let go and breathe.  

This has 90% of the time worked for me, left me feeling lighter and freer than I felt before. Any sadness, heaviness and darkness within me melted away. 

I see you.
I hear you.
I feel you.
I love you.

Every time I say these words, I mean each and every one with every part of me.

Extending my capacity for love and compassion towards myself and those who have hurt me also expands my capacity for love and compassion toward everyone and everything. 

I do honestly believe that if everyone were to proactively expand their capacity for love and compassion, the world would not only be a better place, but it would be damn near perfect. 

Over the years, I have found uses for this in grief, sadness, feeling down, feeling poorly and feeling let down.  I have even found it helpful in dealing with guilt.  I believe that the purpose of all hurt is to teach us love and compassion. For if we cannot grow from this, then there was no purpose for it. And if we can all grow from it, then humanity as a whole grows from it.


I know that I have been fortunate in my life to never have gone without, had the latest bikes and trainers growing up, had private tennis lessons and windsurf lessons etc etc so I know it seems very easy for me to say that compassion makes the world go round, but I’ve also known great mental torment, especially recently finally selling my golf equipment and I have also known grief. I have felt the grief of my best friend and PGA Pro Gordon Ritchie with every single cell of my body, I have over the years attended countless funerals of people from the golf club.  I know that this one simple practice, these few simple words have helped me to soften and to free myself from the dissonance between my heart and my mind.


I see you.
I hear you.
I feel you.
I love you.

This I believe will set me free.

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  1. UnknownMonday, 7 May 2018 at 08:10:00 BST

    A wonderful and life affirming post, and a great lesson for us all .... thank you Ode xxx

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