Helping Others

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A few months ago, I learnt that you cannot help everyone, in life sometimes there are people sometimes you just cannot help. 
It actually is that simple.
There are people in my life that I just can’t help.



So incredibly simple, yet so deeply profound. Why hadn’t I realized this before?

So many times, I have been in situations unfortunately, all too common for those of us with big hearts. They are quite common for those of us who are caregivers, lovers, amazing friends and all those who wish to use our lives in service to a higher good.

In order to be helped, a person must first ask for help. A person must make themselves available, vulnerable, open and humble.  It’s not easy to be open.

In order for you to help someone with your words, that person must first resonate with the kind of wisdom you have to share.

In life, there are around a thousand paths and a thousand ways to interpret the world.  My way may not be my wifes way, and your way may not be your siblings way. We are often so different in our concepts and language for interpreting this mysterious thing called life.

In order for someone to want my help, they must be aligned to my worldview... In order for a person to receive my help, they also must present themselves to me in the most perfect, synchronistic moment.  They must be standing before me in the most precise, delicate moment: the moment just before the blossoming, just before the great change occurs. It can be as small as a split second of opening.  Timing is everything.  In that very moment of perfect timing, they will be not only ready but hungry for evolution, hungry for growth, hungry for truth, hungry for new ways of seeing the world beyond their limited old perspective!

Once I realized that there are some people I just can’t help, I felt somewhat relieved. 

I have learnt first hand over the past year that the ones I love, whether they are stuck in a place of denial to their own suffering or their own addictions, I know that what I say has never made a blind bit of difference.
Denial is a strong force.  Over the past year, I have learnt that often it has been my place to step back from trying to speak at all.  It saves so much heartache.

The best thing I can do is simply be.

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