Decision Making

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I am sat here comfy with a cup of tea infront of the fire, it's nearly 6pm already and I will be having Steak and sweet potato fries for dinner shortly. 
In life we start forming opinions at an early age and this continues all through life.
We decide what we think is right and wrong, what's good and what's bad on a grand scale such as ethics and a small scale concerning day to day interactions.
As a youngster we also learn to develop ideas about how the world should be to support our beliefs and views, things we have learned from our environment and experiences and we learn to also at this time deal with conflict when someone does not have the same opinions as us.



Sometimes my own personal opinions have nothing to do with fact, logic, or common sense. It's just a matter of what feels right to me or infact what my gut tells me, I have a very powerful gut instinct.  I have learnt though that it isn't always right.  I don't often stop to consider what educated my gut; when I learned what to trust and what to fear.  Everything comes down to familiarity and what makes us feel safe.  
In primary school, with the nuns, I rapidly learnt there's very little that I was able to control and no matter how orderly and ideal my little world was around me, things external to me hurt me.  People not attending church youth club or my primary school run by nuns didn't understand me and I didn't understand them and of course as I grew up, this affected me. 

Not everyone knew right from wrong on the bus I travelled on, some didn't even know the concept of good or bad.  I found it instinctive to protect myself, my father sent me to Karate to learn to protect myself from danger.  The only issue came when sometimes I sensed danger that actually wasn't there just because I didn't understand or just because I was purely scared. 

As an adult fastly approaching 40 (next February), I still follow my gut when making decisions or when I feel threatened but I always try and ask myself do I fully understand this situation. 

I have learnt that the world's a far more beautiful place when you see it through eyes that want to understand.



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