Loneliness

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Throughout my life there has been times when I've felt lonely.  It hasn't always happened when I have been alone, I’ve been surrounded by people yet have felt no real connection to them.  

I have been through periods in my life when I’ve been successful and periods where my life has fallen to pieces and loneliness has been a part of both.

I feel uneasy admitting I have felt lonely because it's such a taboo, to admit being lonely makes me feel a failure on some scale.  Am I fault because I have an inability to make a connection with people?  I am socially awkward so maybe it is my fault?

Loneliness is apparently becoming an epidemic.  It's become an issue that has serious repercussions on health and well-being.

Humans aren’t used to being alone, we have survived in groups, groups kept us alive.  Today, society has changed and we no longer all live in communities, so we do not rely on our neighbours, we live apart and function as independent separated beings.  

I think that groups still need to exist, not for survival reasons but for everything else; a chat, help with working through issues, for a shared direction, a shared passion, for care, and for hugs.

Social media has bought with it online communities but I think, well I know that I need face to face contact sometimes.  I have a busy life but I still sometimes feel lonely.  Having a busy life is nothing other than evidence of a imbalance.  I believe that a busy life makes you even lonelier, being busy is a choice.

Feeling lonely is not my fault, I blame society that has thrown everyone a bit of a curveball and now it’s time to throw that ball right on back.


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  1. bullsworldMonday, 13 November 2017 at 11:45:00 GMT

    I feel it too, there's also the expectation that everyone should have a partner, this makes me lonely too as it's something I'll likely never have, feeling alone surrounded by people is hard but social media does help, I always have my online twin to talk to now x

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  2. odetteMonday, 13 November 2017 at 22:10:00 GMT

    We always have each other twin anytime of the day or night xxx

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