Adapt and move forward

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Learning to adapt is vital in life, good and bad comes in and out of everyday life because everything changes.  Resilience is therefore critical, it’s not the strongest or most intelligent that survive but those who are most adaptable to change.

Most people plan their lives expecting good to come their way, to get what they want, and for things to work out how they plan. At the same time they are chasing the good and trying desperately to avoid the bad.

I think unhappiness in life comes from not being able to adapt to change, humans cling to things that we have lost like a loved one or we get upset because things do not go the way we want.  Humans often overlook the ups and downs and the ebbs and flows.  Things come and go as nothing ever stays the same and no matter how hard we try we cannot control the things that we want to.  Acceptance is needed to help us adapt.  In life, everything has pros and cons and every cloud a silver lining but it's what we choose to focus on that determines how happy we become.

Everything in life has a good and bad side, I have learnt to stop expecting perfection.  Life changes, what we needed yesterday may not be what we need today, and either way, we might not have control of what exactly is unfolding. Learning to adapt to these changes is vital, we do not need to be fighting against them. Trying to keep everything the same is like trying to tell conkers not to fall from the trees in autumn.

Things change and we don’t always get to hold on to good stuff forever or I would remain 21 forever.  Whatever is happening now won’t last, which is great news if we’re going through a tough time but not so great if things are going well.  Life is not all about what happens to us but how we react to it.  Some of our greatest disappointments can lead to better things in life.  New beginnings always arrive, if we learn to adapt and embrace change.  My Nan always said expect life to not go to plan Odette Lyndsey then you won't ever be disappointed. So growing up I have tried to do just that, I have accepted what is and adapted.  

This is how as humans we not only survive but thrive: by embracing each moment for what it is and choosing to make the best of it.


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