Patience is all it takes

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Underneath my cloak, I am a passionate person with goals in my life.  Like me, you’ve probably been at the in between stage more than a few times. This is the stage when you’ve identified your goals, broken them down, identified how to reach them, and started on that plan but for some unknown reason you’re not yet seeing the fruits of your labor.

I am always incredibly ambitious and excited at the goal-setting stage, I embark on my path with a clear vision in front of me, then when I am in the throes of it or waiting on the sidelines for the next step. I end up feeling frustrated and completely stuck, it's a feeling like I am not making progress fast enough.  So I worry, going over my plan on my head again and again, sometimes during the night.

Over the years, I have finally realized this is called the waiting stage and I have learnt this is known as the hardest part of goal setting.  This in between stage occurs in certain areas of life like it career.

Recently, I have been in a couple of situations that I started to feel like I was just spinning my wheels. I thought I was doing all I could do, but nothing seemed to be working out, and that was frustrating. Now that I was ready, I wanted something to happen immediately. I took the time and put in the effort, where was it already?! Something should have been happening.  
Eventually it always does.  What a scary word: eventually. What does it even mean? Sooner rather than later? One month? One year? Longer?

Never knowing the exact timeframe makes me feel like a mouse on a wheel.

I have learnt to try and enjoy this waiting time, I have also learnt to enjoy the uncertainty.
I know that I may never be in exactly the same in between stage as this again ever in my life

How do you possibly enjoy the “in-between”?  Well, we could change enjoy to acceptance.  Accept the uncertainty, knowing that you have done the planning, you are doing the work needed and eventually things will all come together. 

So, firstly remember that it’s the “in-between.” stage, Know that you won’t be here forever, Know that this is a temporary state.  Secondly, remember to do things that make you happy during this stage.  Remember that the next step is just a matter of time and you have both the belief and the faith to make it.

So accept the present uncertainty, because up next is the end goal,
the thing you’ve been working toward, with patience throughout the process. I have realised that when you embrace this “in between” phase, the reward is even sweeter.

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