Is it ok to cry?

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We all cry, everyone one of us, some of us cry at the slightest thing, some of us cry more than others, some of us struggle to cry.



Today, I am not here to divide us by the liters of tears we have shed.
Today, we are all the same.  At one time or other, we all feel sad, stressed, overwhelmed, scared, and frustrated at times. 
Today, I want to share that it is ok to be in tears sometimes, do not be ashamed.  Often when you cannot handle a situation and you cry it doesn't mean you are a failure.  When you spend a huge part of your life busy and successful it's hard to cry when you feel broken. 
Sometimes I cry when I am happy. 
It's ok to cry when life gets hard, let it all out, I sometimes do it, it takes a lot to make me cry, I feel too proud to cry sometimes. 
When I cry, it's a massive release.  It the only release I have now,  shedding my tears.
We all shouldn't be afraid to feel our feelings.  When we cry, smile or laugh, it is of course a feeling.  These feelings help us to act and make changes if needs be. 
For me, as I have shared on this blog, have been the toughest months of my life.  The chest line, work and other stresses have helped me  discover that I needed to pay more attention to my own needs, that I needed to find time to pursue new passions as I no longer have my golf, that I needed to find time to mingle with others, that I’m not expected to deal with this alone.




I’ve learnt that no one is capable of being there for others (even if they are the people you love) without having some time for rejuvenation.  I have unfortunately learned this the hard way. Neglecting oneself can really make a person lose all sense of purpose, and when that happens, depression can come knocking on your door very very quickly.  It was only by feeling my feelings that I was able to recognize my needs and make these positive changes.
Going forward, I have to learn to listen carefully to what I want and need.  This year will bring change for me.  I have to learn to listen carefully to what’s held me back so far in life. 
If you come across someone crying, please reach out to them, please don’t judge, being there could mean the world to them.
Anyone who was at my wedding knows that my father was extremely emotional.  My dad is not afraid to cry.  Its okay for males to cry too, I learnt growing up that only strong people dare to show their feelings.
Tears can come from all sorts of feelings.  Tears come from stress. Tears come from sorrow. But they make any type of pain lessen, and they help anyone look to tomorrow.  Tears come from pain and from frustration.  I know now that it is okay to cry, it is okay to share these tears with others, it’s okay to do whatever I need to do for me. 

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